FORGOTTEN GIFTS OF CHILDHOOD

January 11th, 2020

We’re always amazed how quickly kids learn.  As chaotic and unruly as they might appear to us, something in all that cloud of activity is figuring things out at a speed that adults can only admire with in frustration.

And then puberty hits and we gain such a claustrophobic degree of self consciousness that we spend much of our adult life trying to get rid of it, or somehow get around it.

Aphorisms like be yourself and don’t care what others think don’t really apply to children in the way that adults covet such ideas.  Children are generally so immersed in their experience of reality that the who concept of a ‘self’ is far less important than it proves to be for adults.

And it’s likely because of this small identity that children are so fluid with their failure and as a result, they learn very quick.

Our ideas surrounding failure are fundamentally tied to our sense of identity.  Failure is somehow a commentary on who we are.  We somehow take it personally and our own value is called into question in our own eyes.  The recursiveness here is only detrimental.  Children, on the other hand generally don’t have this sort of recursive issue.

Failure is but a passing road sign on the way to doing something new.

We as adults, however, are not wholly exiled to this torturous realm of self-conscious paralysis.  It’s possible to down-regulate your identity and the importance of your sense of self until your relationship with failure becomes both enjoyable and challenging in the same way that playing tennis or chess with a friend can be.

The process is simple, but requires consistent effort.  Dusting off that forgotten gift of childhood depends solely on the ability to simply pay attention to the moment.

It’s a simple as that.  If you are paying close attention to the moment, then you’re simply not in your own head anymore. But doing this reliably and consistently requires a dedicated effort.  One that can be achieved through meditation.

But a whole practice of meditation with some sort of teacher and exercises isn’t necessarily needed.  You can prove this point about the moment to yourself easily.

As you go about your day today, try to remember this idea, and when you do, simply stop, pause, and look around at the life in which you are immersed.  Try to soak up every detail, as though you’re in some fantastically realistic videogame.  Allow yourself to marvel at the fact that you even exist – no matter what you life entails, how much difficulty or sadness, the chance to pay attention this closely is always on offer.  Let the details of reality sink in and you just might find some relief, perhaps even a joy that feels distantly familiar.

RIVALNYM CASE STUDY: CRAZYGENIUS

January 10th, 2020

If you are unfamiliar with the concept of a Rivalnym, it is something developed by Tinkered Thinking to address a certain class of words and concepts that fall in a strange place between Synonyms and Antonyms.  A rivalnym is a word, or rather, a pair of words that are somewhat synonymous in literal meaning, but opposite in terms of the emotional valence we ascribe to the thing being described.

A pair of words that makes an easy example of this rivalnym concept are the words:

Stubborn and Determined.

Both can be perspectives that we have about someone else’s goals.  If we approve of someone’s goal, then we label their efforts as determined.  But if we don’t approve of their goal, then we see their efforts as a kind of stubbornness. 

Another set of words that can fit into our Rivalnym framework are Crazy and Genius.

Appropriately these two words have been joined lately in culture.  It’s not just that someone’s a genius anymore, it’s that they are a crazygenius!  And this trend in thinking might lend more credibility to the Rivalnym framework than we might first realize.

More historically though, the difference between crazy and genius was decidedly more pronounced.  The ill-fated story of Ignaz Semmelweis is a good example.

This Hungarian physician made the horrific discovery that new mothers were dying in his hospital because doctors were not washing their hands after performing autopsies on corpses before delivering babies.  To the modern ear this sounds horrific, even to a young person of little education.  The germ theory is so widely expected, so robust and has such a strong place in the human conception of the world that even children understand at an early age the idea of tiny and potentially harmful microbes sticking to our skin and looking for a way into our bodies.  But back in the 1840’s this concept was unheard of. 

Semmelweis figured it out by getting the doctors to simply wash their hands.  The rate of death among new mothers plummeted, and you’d think that would be enough proof for the scientific community to accept a new idea.  But alas, it was not to be so for quite a while.

Semmelweis was outspoken and forceful about his message, and because of the way he delivered his message, people thought he was crazy.  The poor guy suffered a nervous breakdown and was actually committed to an asylum where he died.

Now we might look back at the man and call him a genius for making the leap of logic and experimenting for the sake of helping people.  That’s all the guy wanted, was to help people.  And yet people ignored his message and thought him crazy.

In the world of today, it might be that we’ve started to compound the two words into simply crazygenius because we can now see so many examples where it’s clear you have to be a little mad to come up with an interesting and potentially paradigm shifting idea. 

Apple’s eternal slogan Think Different, is both a call to the genius and the crazy person.  Both such people think different.  The dichotomy couldn’t be more appropriate:

We need only ask: would you risk going crazy in order to find a genius idea that might benefit your fellow human?

Sanity certainly seems a small price to pay when you look back at the innovations that have lifted the lives of billions over the years.

But perhaps best to have your cake and eat it too.  Be a crazygenius, and try to reap the benefits in this life.

PLANNING WHO YOU'LL BE

January 9th, 2020

It’s very difficult to bridge the gap between the decisions we make today and the ramifications that will follow years down the line.

We are tired now and want to relax and the lure of a TV show and a glass of wine and some delivery suddenly exhibits a pull on our being that is undeniably strong.  Repeat this several thousand times, however and the results are not something to be desired.  And the end of the day, we have to ask: is this the best way to spend our precious time alive?

Meditation, as a practice, is a bit of strange thing to start.  The benefits are nearly non-existent in the beginning, and any energy mustered in order to continue is a bit of an admission of dissatisfaction about who a person currently is.  It’s somewhat amazing that the human mind is set up in a way that it can be negatively self-reflective.  Of course, this ability is certainly tied to such mental difficulties as anxiety and depression, but the fact that something can not like itself in some capacity is somewhat amazing.  It’s certainly hard to imagine this capacity in animals aside from the guilty looking dog that  couldn’t help itself when it ate the freshly baked cookies when no one was watching.  The human mind, on the other hand has the capability to take this negative self-reflection to a whole new level. 

A person can get to the point in such negativity where they admit that something needs to be done.  The constant depression, the anxiety, it’s just not working, it’s not doing anything other than telling a person that something is wrong.  At that point a person needs to pull every available lever both psychologically and physically in order to get things moving in more interesting directions.

Starting a practice like meditation is in some sense done with the idea that it will eventually change who a person is.  The fact that a mind and a person can willingly undertake such a metamorphosis is interesting because it requires accepting a certain death.  In order for a new person to come about, the current one needs to go.  It’s not so straight forward of course, but profound transformations do put that old self to rest.

It’s worth taking a few moments to wonder what sort of person you will become based on the influences and habits that you have going right now.

Do you revere poets and writers who ended up killing themselves?  What sort of direction does that kind of influence have?

Are you more likely to give into pleasure instead of doing something that might be a little bit uncomfortable but more fulfilling in the long run?

There are enough people out there, enough examples of lives lived to get a sense of where your own habits will lead you as they slowly grow a deeper and deeper root into who you are.

If the probable result doesn’t look too appealing, then perhaps it’s worth planning a different outcome, and then engineering backwards to figure out what you should be doing today.

THE REQUIREMENTS OF AN IDEA

January 8th, 2020

The theft performed by colleges and universities isn’t just financial in terms of student loans.

The bigger theft might be that such institutions convinced so many that you need a degree in order to have a good idea.

Take into account that the added debt that comes with a degree severely limits an individual’s opportunity to take chances.  Debts require regular payments, and regular payments naturally require a job.  Needless to say, there’s not much wiggle room between the acquisition of a degree and the time when a debt comes knocking.

What exactly is higher education for?

The superficial answer that has proved to be nothing but fantasy is that it’s a gateway to a better job and a better standard of living.  The reality shows that it’s generally a way of seducing one’s self into a paralyzing situation.

None of this creates an environment where new ideas flourish with the opportunity to be explored.

Many of the forces that have arisen with the development of college and university programs go directly against the sorts of things required to explore, namely time, space, and the freedom to think curiously.

The quickest way to dumb someone down below their natural level of intelligence is to give them an unnecessarily large amount of stress for an interminable period of time.  The neuroendocrinologist Robert Sapolsky has done research to show just how detrimental such stress is on our cognitive abilities.  Debt is the perfect inducement of this kind of stress.

Creative solutions do not arise during this kind of stress.  Certainly there are outliers.  Given a large enough population there is going to be a small subset of people who manage to think well enough despite this stress to invent creative solutions to get out of such stress, and also given a large enough population there are going to be some who just get lucky, but it’s a mistake to tout these rare instances of pulling one’s self up by the bootstraps as examples that the poor masses can follow.  This misunderstands the statistics afforded by a large population.  Most people are simply incapable of pulling off this trick.  It’s akin to asking a team of people to perform at work after sleep depriving them for one hundred hours.  Everyone is going to do terribly, and maybe, given a large enough population, there is going to be a tiny portion of people with just the right physiology to pull it off.  But to expect everyone to do it no problem and criticize them as lazy when they don’t?  That’s lazy thinking that results in no real understanding on the part of the person who criticizes.

People respond well to small isolated instances of stress.  Short bouts of stress are good for the body and brain, which means that for the most part, if we want people to perform better, we need to aim for people at large to live more relaxed lives.  As neuroendocrinologists like Sapolsky have uncovered, the science is there to make a substantial health argument for something like a basic income.  Pilot studies for such programs have shown drastic reductions in emotional disorders among a host of other benefits.

On an individual level, however, the implications can be equally powerful.  Instead of solving for the external reason of stress, such as debt or poverty, it is possible to solve for the stress itself from an internal standpoint.

Things like meditation and exercise can – over time - have enormous impacts on the severity and presence of stress no matter the external pressures.  But these require the most important ingredient: time.

Which for such a person – as with all people – is the most valuable resource.  Hoarding some for such personal reasons may seem unwise from a financial standpoint when that time can be further converted into a little more money, but in the long run, such a selfish use of time can pay off enormously in ways that far outweigh the smalls sums that would have been gained had that time been spent at another part-time job.

INSUFFERABLE PERSISTENCE

January 7th, 2020

Many people do not succeed because they don’t bother to show up.  The logic is that the success rate is low, so why even try?

Sometimes, the contours of the answer are embedded in the shape of the question.  And this one gives away the trick.

See what happens when we invert the question:  If few people are bothering to try, is it any surprise that the success rate is so low?

This is one instance where correlation and causation are probably pretty tight.  Our success with anything depends on chance and our ability to persistently try, again and again.

Notice it’s not either or.  It’s not either, we get lucky with chance, or we just bang our heads against the task until it works.  Both chance and persistence are fundamental here.

The reason is because each time we try, we do something a little different.  We internalize failure, ideally learning from it, and our strategy changes a little as a result of integrating this new information.  Our next attempt is a new one, and we can never be sure how it will pan out.  Nor can we be exactly sure what we decide to do for that next attempt.  Our next idea is not something we plan.  It is, like your next thought, a bit random.  This is chance at play in an intimate dance with our experience of being a thinking, acting human being.  While we can plan what we’ll do in the future, we cannot actually know what we’ll do until we get there.  It’s a bit like rolling the dice, but it’s a die with millions of options that are dependent on who we are, how we think, how we regulate emotions, what we know, and what we’ve done.

If there’s something we want to succeed at, it’s a matter of rolling that die again and again.  The odds that you hit upon a strategy and an action that starts working goes up the more times you try.

Simply,

Overwhelm fate with an insufferable persistence and eventually people will say that your success was fate.