THE LITTLE RED BUTTON

August 4th, 2018

What does the little red button signify?  In movies we see the little red button in control rooms for a launch, or underneath the desks of bank tellers, or in a special suitcase.

The little red button can be an abort button, or a panic button, or it’s the last step to launch something big.

It’s used for extreme events, when we are either retreating in panic or initiating a move forward with tremendous force.

Everyone has a mental version of this.  A little red button that we use.  But how is it wired?  Does it cue the frustration?  Does it release the floodgates of emotion and tumultuous language?  Do we always regret pushing the little red button, wishing it had some sort of locked cage over it?  Do we use that little red button to launch missiles in panic?

Or is the little red button something we eagerly look forward to?  Something we know we can’t push until everything is ready and set.  Something that has hushed reverence while we put together the rocket ship that will explore an exciting and new distant territory?

Imagine the young kid who has spent painstaking hours building her contraption, wiring parts together, fixing motors and wheels or levers.    Perhaps it all started when she came across a box of electronics and found a red button, unused, hooked up to nothing.  What did she imagine?  How inspiring could it have been to think about what that button could start.  And so she builds something and finally hooks up the red button.  Imagine that moment as she pauses just before hitting the button, like pushing the first of a long line of dominos.

We’ve got to ask, what’s our red button hooked up to?  An array of explosives that we’ve rigged for the next time someone pisses us off?  Or is it reserved for those special OCCASIONS when we’re ready to see what our hard work can do on its own?

This episode references Episode 105: OCCASION, if you'd like to fully understand the reference, please check out that episode next.

BAD PATTERN

August 3rd, 2018

We love patterns.  Our ability to recognize them and extrapolate on these correlations has given us incredible abilities to understand and create.

But with anything that we’ve inherited from time.  It’s fair game to expect that it’s operating with a couple of bugs.

Music is perhaps the most obvious example of this pleasure of patterns.  Music is all about patterns, and indeed this hold on a level deeper than just repeating notes and beats.

The reason why some notes sound good together and form a ‘chord’ and other random assortments of notes don’t sound good has to do with this love of patterns and our innate ability to recognize them.  The different notes of a chord sound good together because when the individual resonating frequencies of each note are literally laid on top of each other visually, they match up in a bunch of places – hence a pattern, that our brain can instantly hear.  It’s the recognition of that overlapping pattern that gives us pleasure.

What is more interesting is that random notes that don’t sound good together have resonating frequencies that do eventually match up!  But the distance between correlated parts is far enough away that it’s harder to recognize.  The correlation seems less strong, and therefore less pattern is recognized and less pleasure is produced in the brain.  

It’s clear we favor high correlation and short distance between correlated parts when it comes to our pattern-recognizing software.

Could this be a problem? 

What if it’s beneficial to ignore the small highly correlated pattern in favor of the bigger pattern that has correlation spread out over a lot more time? 

Would our pattern-recognition software lead us astray here? 

In 1967 Martin Seligman performed some interesting experiments and discovered a phenomenon he dubbed ‘Learned Helplessness”

To summarize his experiments quickly, he put some dogs in an uncomfortable situation that was designed so they had no ability to change the situation and make themselves more comfortable.  He then placed the same dogs in an uncomfortable situation that they could change.  The dogs did nothing.  They had incorrectly learned that they had no power over their situations.  Given the new situation, they did not even try.  While a control group that had always had some autonomy over their uncomfortable situation readily took a chance, tried something and made their situation better.

Both groups of dogs were exercising pattern recognition in the first part of the experiment.  The ‘helpless’ dogs quickly came to the conclusion that there was no correlation between their efforts and any change in their environment.  In this case, no correlation IS the correlation.  Where as the autonomous dogs found a correlation between their efforts and the changes in their environment. 

This learned correlation then carries over into the new situation.  The helpless dogs are convinced that there is no correlation between their efforts and their environment, and they do nothing.

These dogs formed a conclusion very very quickly. 

Humans are prone to this exact same ‘Learned Helplessness’, and many researches believe it may be at the heart of clinical depression.

Learned helplessness occurs because we think we see a pattern and a correlation:

I do this and I fail.  I do it again, I fail.

Ladies and Gentlemen, we have a pattern.

And once we recognize this pattern, the conclusion it creates is impossible to remove without counter-intuitive and difficult self-questioning.  The acceptance of the conclusion then creates a negative feedback loop where acceptance of the tiny pattern then replicates the pattern, making the pattern bigger, the correlation stronger, and therefore making it seem like it’s validity is more robust.

If our effort is a foregone conclusion in this way, then the result of our effort is an inaccurate reading of our effect on reality.

Accepting the conclusion creates the illusion of further confirmation that the original pattern is relevant, when in reality there is an important distinction that should be made between an authentic pattern and which tiny authentic patterns we deem relevant.

Think of how many times a baby falls and struggles as it learns to walk.  Not only is the effort impressively consistent, but more importantly, the effort is just a constant fail.

Perhaps babies are literally too unaware to realize just how epically they are failing.  Ironically, it is this lack of awareness that eventually enables them to succeed. 

COMMUNAL DREAM

August 2nd, 2018

In the practice of mindfulness it’s occasionally recommended to try looking at daily life as though it were a dream.  This is recommended in order to help the mind ‘let go’ a little bit, and take things a little bit less seriously.  This is not because important things aren’t serious, but because the shift in perspective can be very beneficial.

The exercise can also unearth some interesting aspects of our relation to reality.  Such as how similar dreams are to our experience of the past.  Both are remembered, only.

We cannot go find the past, hold it, touch it, or experience it again.  Much like a dream.  We cannot go find a dream we have had, we cannot touch it, hold it, or experience it in any way other than memory.

Considering this, the past might be more accurately described as a communal dream than anything that has a basis in reality.

Reality is defined as “the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.”  And everyone always disagrees on what happened, even in the very recent past, which betrays the fact that we are converting our experience of reality into a remembered perspective, one that is limited and flawed. 

The definition of reality excludes the past from being a part of it.

This is a point worth pausing on for a moment.  The definition of reality does not include the past.   The past simply does not exist.  Reality might be the conglomerated ramifications of that communal dream we remember, but all of those events  no longer exist.  The past exists only as a communal dream that we all somewhat remember being a part of.

This can be a scary notion.  But it can also help us focus more on the present moment and appreciate the moments we have with others and the opportunity to take advantage of the time we have to do something we feel is worthwhile.

There is also something very liberating about seeing the past as merely a dream.  We become less tethered to what has happened.  There is less of a reason to hold grudges or continue to be sad about something that we remember happening, or something lost that once was.  While some things in the past are healthy to honor, most of our preoccupation with the past is an unhealthy one that keeps us from exploring more productive avenues in the present.  Realizing that the past is not actually a part of reality can help us severe those tethers and take healthier risks that might improve our reality and the reality of those around us.

Though, this all may be so we can all just remember a better dream.

CHEAP THRILLS

August 1st, 2018

There are endless ways to waste time. Indeed, the only real question in life is how shall we spend our time?  Much of the economy is based on pleasure or entertainment to fill up this time and most of it consists of cheap thrills.

There it is: Time.  The most valuable resource that we know of.  A resource that only runs down and one that we can’t quantify, because we never know how much time we have left.  And yet we squander this divine resource all the time with cheap thrills.  What exactly does that mean?

A cheap thrill is a value indication not only of the person who creates the cheap thrill but it’s also a value indication of the person who buys the cheap thrill. 

And a ‘value indication’ in this case is how much each person thinks or feels their time is worth.  Or perhaps more accurately, it’s part of a mental habit about how valuable such person thinks their time and their effort is worth. 

It might be useful to ask:  Do I have a habit of acting in a way that does not make my time very valuable?

We might think our time is valuable.  We might know our time is valuable.  But do we act in ways that demonstrate just how valuable time is?

For the person who creates a cheap thrill and the person who seeks such a thrill, there exists a subtle prison of feedback here.  The person who can only afford a cheap thrill might rationalize that such an activity is justified because nothing better can be purchased.  This is a case of playing the victim.  If such a person isn’t willing to admit that their time is only worth as much as the cheap thrill they actually pay for, what’s really happening is that they are denying the fact that if they skipped the cheap thrill and thoughtfully paused to consider how such time could be better spent, then it would make their time more valuable than it was when it was spent with the cheap thrill.

Such a denial is what keeps this loop spinning.

Likewise, the person who creates a cheap thrill is doing something very similar.  They might be wealthier, perhaps much wealthier than the person who can only afford a cheap thrill, but there is not an exact correlation between money and time.  This isn’t indicated just by the fact that some people can procure lots more money in less time, but also by the fact that most people facing death would pay any amount of money just to get more time.

The creator of cheap thrills may create wealth, but such a person devalues their own time.

Again, when it comes to time, we would be best served not ask  “how can time best be converted into money?”, but simply, how best can we use our time?

If we find ourselves habitually spending time in ways that seem to devalue that precious resource, then the first good use of time would be to thoughtfully pause, potentially for much longer than is comfortable, and confront the difficult question:  How can I use my time more wisely?

Shall I seek out a cheap thrill?

Or shall I test myself, and push myself.

for that, we need to create an occasion for a distracting test…

This episode references Episode 105: Occasion, Episode 107: The Distracting Test, and Episode 23: Pause.  If you’d like to fully explore those references, please check out those episodes next.

THE DISTRACTING TEST

July 31st, 2018

There are endless distractions to gobble up time.  Much of the economy is based on pleasure  or entertainment that can also be qualified as a distraction.

Distracted from what though?

Well, what exactly does it mean to be distracted?

Dis, the prefix for the word distracted, means ‘apart, or to separate’, and we all know what traction means.

So to be distracted means to loose traction.  This is a terrible and dangerous situation if we find ourselves in a car and lose traction.

But what does it mean in a more general sense and how does that relate to our life? 

Turning the question on it’s head might help.

What does it mean to have traction in one’s life?  Someone who has traction in their life might be said to know where they are going.  That such a person is making progress.  Moving towards a goal, or a set of goals.

So to be distracted is to loose clear sight of those goals and spend time driving off in meaningless directions without wonder or curiosity.

The entertainment economy exists because a person’s time is incredibly valuable.  And if that time can be redirected so that such people spend that time distracted, then the value of that time is usurped by the person who creates the distraction.  This also makes sense if we think about how much money is spent on a distraction, such as CHEAP THRILLS versus high-end luxury.

Now what is the opposite of distraction?  How do we define traction in a real-life circumstance?  What exactly are we doing if we are making progress towards a goal?  We are testing ourselves.  We are pushing into unknown and unfamiliar territory to figure out what needs to be done in order to achieve a goal.  School has unfortunately indoctrinated us that a test is a simple regurgitation, but this does not hold when we think about what is means to be truly tested.  Such a phrase evokes epic images of heroic feats. And any Disney movie will hammer it home that a hero rising to the challenge is not simply regurgitating the methods employed in earlier circumstances.  The hero is using compounded tools slowly compiled through the hard, testing experience of training in order to use in new ways against a fresh and unfamiliar test.

So is life to be either a grueling test or a distraction?

No.  There is pleasure in both the distraction and the test.  But not all distractions fit our fancy and some tests just aren’t our mountain to climb.

There is a middle ground.

We must find the test that feels somewhat like a distraction.  In what manner?

It’s useful to note a sentiment that has been echoed by countless writers over the years.  In countless ways writers have said

“I don’t enjoy writing, I like having written something.”

Note where the pleasure comes from in this sentiment.  It does not come at the beginning.

In contrast, how many times has it been said that the best part of the movie is the trailers at the beginning.

Between all of this is an even more important slice of the middle ground. 

It’s often referred to as flow.  Or being in a flow state.

The timeline of the flow state is the opposite of the movie.  Where as sitting down for the movie is often the most exciting, pleasurable part, the process of trying to get in to a flow state is the least pleasurable part, when laziness and procrastination try to pull us back to youtube, facebook, or Instagram.

That flow state is a sign of balance between the grueling test, and the pleasurable distraction. Time zips by because we are actually having fun, but we are also making progress, having fun, and moving forward with traction.

So much of LEVELING-UP has to do with realizing that in many instances of life we actually can have our cake and eat it too.  Just not right up front.  And it will require difficult and novel, agile thinking, along with the suppression of everything that wants pleasure immediately.

LEVELING-UP requires us to find a distracting test.  Something that challenges us, but rewards us during the process and continually after we have achieved the goal.

This episode references Episode 42: Level-Up.  If you'd like to fully explore the references, please check out that episode next.